It's become more and more obvious that fighting patriarchy absolutely must be a primary emergency for anyone who desires for civilization to be brought down.
This idea that males are inherently aggressive is, to be sure, incredibly harmful and silly. But this does not change that this male-dominated culture has waged war against women: their bodies, souls, and minds. Those males who reject this notion of entitlement and actually resist patriarchy are just too few and far between.
The notion that females are inherently nurturing is, in my opinion, more accurate, but I believe that all human beings, regardless of gender, are nurturing outside of this wretched system and both females and males can be aggressive when appropriate, nurturing when appropriate, and everything else when appropriate. Obviously.
That said, everywhere I look in this culture i see aggression winning over nurturing. I see women being shut up. I see men doing the talking, doing the action, and taking control. I see rape and gendered violence. I see an economy being run on the devouring of others, the destruction of the natural world, the penetration of the sacred. This economy is run by men and by women who have internalized these messages of domination over relationship. I see women being beat, raped, and murdered. I see men waging this war against women and against life.
If we want to stop this culture, we can start with patriarchy. If you are a male, look around and see the privileges you have. Look around and see the ways you participate in patriarchy, in the silencing and destruction of women and life and all of the relationships they entail. If you are a male, shut up and let her talk, because she has been told to shut up while being oppressed for too fucking long. If you are a male, find ways to support her before and especially during or after she has been in an abusive situation. Better yet, stop the culture that would allow this abuse to happen. Stop this abusive culture.
We all need to start confronting this wherever we see it. As long as women are silenced and destroyed, the battle against civilization rages on.
Philly's Pissed. Wonderful downloadable readings on supporting survivors of sexual assault, community responses, and combating sexism.
The Witch Burnings. A video on women's spirituality and genocide.
Healing the Earth Radio. A great, two-part interview with survivor-support activists.
Male Ally. A resource for men combating patriarchy, which i started.